Telling a lie is inevitable and we have all found ourselves in a situation where lying is our only way out if we want to protect our careers, prevent hurting our loved ones and so on. Sometimes, hearing a lie does better than listening to the truth. Therefore, learning how to lie confidently is key to convincing the person hearing the lie that it’s the truth.
To achieve this confidence, one can follow the following tips:
1. One should have made peace with the decision of lying to tell a convincing lie. Telling lies can outweigh on your conscience making you nervous or stammer and that can give you away. Before telling the lie, it’s important for one to be fully convinced that telling the lie is the best option. Lying is contradictory to religious beliefs and morals and thus, making peace with your decision to be dishonest is the first step towards becoming a confident liar.
2. The Probability of the lie being detected should be considered. One can ask themselves questions such as what are the consequences if caught? What are the effects of the lie on your relationship? Is the person forgiving or not? A good lie should have a small detection probability.
3. After weighing your chances of being caught, plan your story prior to delivery. Include a few truthful details in the lie to make it very believable and be ready for follow-up questions. The story should be kept simple to avoid making mistakes. You can write down the lie to help you remember the details and sequence.
4. While delivering the lie, work on your body language to avoid showing telltale signs of a liar. Maintain eye contact keeping it as normal as usual. Speak eloquently without stuttering and this can be achieved by practicing in front of a mirror so that your story is at the fingertips. Stay relaxed and avoid fidgeting, keep your hands relaxed, avoid using new vocabularies, and slightly smile. Also, one should avoid talking about too much information or sounding defensive. By doing all these, the listener cannot easily tell that you are lying.
5. If you suspect that the listener can tell that you are lying, admitting to lying in just a small portion of your story will make them believe that that’s all you were dishonest about it. Incorporating some truths and twisting your story to show that one thing happened prior to another can also help with baiting the listener to continue believing the lie.
6. Bring up the lie before you the other person asks you about it. This lets you control the direction of the conversation and gives you the opportunity to elaborate your story with calmness. It minimizes the chance of being attacked with a question when you are not ready, increasing your convincing power.
The paramount thing about telling a good lie is its details. If you are sure that you know something very well, then the way you talks about it reflects your knowledge about it. Speaking confidently about a matter, regardless if you are lying can make the listener believe you.